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  • If You Only Knew Their Story

    If You Only Knew Their Story

    Diversity and inclusion initiatives have commenced across the country. Fortune 500 companies, board rooms, and executive offices are diversifying daily. Journalists are reporting and researching best practices and workplace culture is constantly changing. As we study workplace culture and work hard to define core values, it is important to consider the stories behind the people.

    If you were to ask any CEO or business owner their most valuable resource, they would tell you their employees. In other words, people. The most expensive line item in every organization’s budget is also people. So why don’t we take the time to get to know people? Those who purchase real estate learn everything they can about the property before purchasing. They will even spend thousands on the improvement of the asset. The same goes for purchasing expensive vehicles. The first thing we do when purchasing a vehicle is asking for the carfax. That carfax provides a written history of the vehicle, all maintenance completed, and any accidents that occurred previously. During the interview process candidates present a resume,
    which gives work history, relatable skills, and education. There’s so much missing from this information that matters. What would change if you only knew their story?

    Knowing a person’s story produces empathy. While one may not completely relate to individual experiences, struggles, and triumphs, it changes how you treat someone when you know the journey they’ve taken to arrive where they are. For example, let me tell you about my childhood friend, Roy.

    LeRoy and I went to high school together in Kenner, Louisiana. He loved to play basketball but was never quite good enough to make the team. Unlike my other peers, Roy had a lot of money. He always wore the newest Jordan shoes whenever released, drove a brand new car, and nice jewelry. We were all jealous of his life and treated him badly because his life seemed so much easier than ours. One day, Roy offered to drive me home after practice. On the way to my house, he stopped at his home to check on his mom. Inside his home, I noticed his family pictures which included his father, who was a military veteran. I asked about his father because I never met him. What he said changed how I saw him. He said, “My dad was killed two years ago in a car accident by a drunk driver. That’s why we have so much money. I’d give it all back just to have my dad here again.” As you can imagine, this changed how I treated Roy.

    We’ve all heard the phrase “don’t judge a book by its cover” but we still do it. We make judgments about our peers, our colleagues, our supervisors, and executives in the workplace. Usually without knowing their story. We assume that those in leadership were gifted their position because of a relationship. We assume women in leadership slept their way to the top. We assume people of color are there due to affirmative action. Another word for these assumptions is unconscious bias. It affects how we hire, who we hold accountable, and how we treat people in the workplace.

    Knowing each other’s story takes time, intentionality, and care. It’s potentially the most gratifying experience one can have at work. Maya Angelou said, “We are more alike than we are un-alike.” It’s through our stories that we see just how much alike we are. The story of the people is the story of the company, and its a story worth telling.

  • Being the Best YOU

    Being the Best YOU

    Being the very best ​you ​ can possibly be at all times, in every way, in every situation,  under every circumstance. A jammed pack statement right. Think about this. At all times. In  every way. In every situation. Under every circumstance. Simply put, you control every decision  you make and every action you take. Imagine the impact of diversity when everyone decides for  themselves. Well, the world is full of “follow-the-leader” individuals. You know how it goes.  Friends, groups, clicks even that create an elite club that excludes those they do not like for no  reason. Maybe they don’t drive a nice car or they bring lunch every day instead of going out.  The bias is sometimes unconscious and naturally displayed as normal practice.   


    You are always an intricate part of “we” in society. Although you cannot control the  actions of others, you can control how you respond to discrimination that you may witness.  Many times standing by silently is providing your stamp of approval. Further, the person  committing the act finds comfort in your “lack of action” and will continue to harass others.  Below is a self-test to see where you stand when faced with a challenge to stand up for others or  what you may believe to be wrong.  

    Experiencing Discrimination Self-Assessment 
      How many times did people say things that were untrue about people of a different  race, gender, or age group in your presence?    How many times have you experienced hearing bias remarks about another coworker  in conversations?    How many times have you seen peers joke about or joked at because of their  appearance or look?  

    Self-reflection usually provides thoughts of unrealized truths usually dismissed as no  big deal. Sadly, you may be the person enduring this awful reality of discrimination. Use this  same self-assessment tool in Figure 1 considering you as the victim. How different was your  experience – just thinking about the answers? Additionally, are you guilty of discriminating  against others? Yes, you could find yourself on different sides of this scenario. The real  question now is:  

    Which side of discrimination will you work towards – perpetrator, victim, or  problem-solver? 
    The uncomfortable reality is that we all have experienced some form of discrimination. Finding  a healthy solution to co-exist respectfully is challenging and can be exhausting as well. But it  does start with ​you ​ . One person, at each moment, to change one situation,​ you ​ have the ability  to change many. 

    A number of influences affect individual  behaviors in the workplace. Get rid of  the toxicity in your life. Negative friends  should become associates from a  distance. The behavior associated with  social influences on individual decisions  is considered peer pressure. These  influences shape who you become in the  shadow of others. Exercise your freedom  to choose when the decisions are tough. 

    Healthy solutions to diversity start with one individual decision. If we reflect on the  true definition of diversity, we will find that many underlying influences are contained  within. Specifically, gender and age rank at the top of the list creating biased  individual opinions. I challenge ​you ​ to encourage relentless execution of the existing  diversity policies and become courageous in ​your ​ personal actions. Be the best ​you ​ can  be.